ONE QUESTION

Are you a victim to the problems you are creating?

ONE THING TO PONDER

The reasons why people don’t do something are almost always stronger than why they do. 

ONE PERSPECTIVE

Take notice of your preferences. They aren't necessarily your friend. It’s not a question of whether or not we should have preferences, it’s about the level of attachment to them that derails our happiness.

-Something doesn’t show up the way we want, we get upset.

-Someone doesn’t behave the way we want them to, we judge and gossip.

-We think we deserve something that hasn’t shown up, so we become entitled and complain.

We have a choice in every situation in life….

Our preference to do something or not do something has very little to do with doing what's best for us.

How do I know this? Because otherwise we would eat healthier, we would exercise more, and we'd be less selfish in relationships.

As a person who desires longevity in the crazy life, if I simply ate and drank anything I wanted, I’d contradict what I say I want most.

As an entrepreneur, if I simply followed my preferences to do what I wanted to do when I wanted to do them, that would be the very thing to put me out of business.

Don't confuse your desire/preference for something with your willingness to do what it takes to get it.

Preferences will often work against us. The idea that the world, other people, outcomes, etc. should line up with our preferences is childish.

Our attachment to how we believe things should be or how we want them to be is what causes us the most pain. It has very little to do with how the world works.

It causes tension, and it causes attachment to things that most likely aren't in our control. Let go of your preferences, focus on giving your best effort towards the things that matter most.

Focus less on your preferences and more so on developing yourself for the betterment of other people.

Onward and upward!

PODCAST

The Power of Presence and Patience

Motivation with Brendon Buchard

BOOK RECOMMENDATION

Leadership and Self-Deception
by The Arbinger Institute