We Talk Too Much

Jake Luehrs
September 27, 2025

ONE QUESTION

Which part of my life am I pretending is fine but know deep down is broken or neglected?

ONE THING TO PONDER

Happiness and fulfillment are far more about building and creating than they are about consumption.

ONE PERSPECTIVE

We talk too much.

Not just "we" as in other people—we as in you, me, all of us caught in this verbal avalanche of our own making.

It seems we've traded thoughtful communication for performative speaking.

We've become masters of saying a lot while meaning very little, crafting word salads that sound impressive but lack any definite perspective, or a shallow perspective at best.

This is likely an unpopular take, it's nuanced and also well intended. But I share it as something to ponder, not be right or wrong.

We’ve confused more words and higher volume with impact.

Society (meaning each one of us, myself included) has become very loose with words, believing using words to cut is actually going to positively change things.

The social media moguls will elevate negative content, because negativity drives consumption.

Twenty years of social media has taught us this: Telling everyone else they're wrong doesn't make the world better. It just makes us feel temporarily important while the platforms profit from our anger.

Let's all understand we are the one feeding the monsters.

It's important we understand that words can be highly impactful, and on the other hand, very damaging.

Higher volume is typically an indicator of an insecure mind.

A person with a troubled mind, focusing on everyone and everything else, typically lacks genuine interest in what they themselves are doing.

And when the mind is troubled, it typically causes us to talk more, and not positively.

We talk too much to be validated by others.

We talk too much in order to be "right," not necessarily to be effective.

Effectiveness often comes more from a calm silence and thoughtful approach to talking rather than emotional reaction.

What if the most radical thing you could do today was... say less?

Silence isn't empty—it's full of possibility. In the space between words, real listening happens. Understanding grows. Relationships deepen.

I'm convinced that if we were to pause on talking to justify our righteousness, we'd lower the temperature.

We may be right, but telling everyone else they are wrong is simply not moving the needle. That has been proven time and time again.

If we want to be effective, face to face conversations are the pathway.

If we simply want to be seen, go seek shallow importance on social media by telling everyone how wrong they are.

In a world drowning in words, perhaps the most powerful thing we can offer is the gift of thoughtful silence, followed by words that truly matter.

Onward and Upward

PS - Share this with anyone you can think of that has done great things but may be struggling!

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