ONE QUESTION

What decision would you make if you had just an ounce more courage?

ONE THING TO PONDER

When we avoid difficult conversations, we aren’t ‘keeping the peace’, we’re simply prolonging the tension.

ONE PERSPECTIVE

Overwhelm and anxiety come from having a long to-do list without any priorities.

We treat everything with the same level of importance. No wonder why we feel overwhelmed.

Not everything carries the same importance. In your mind it may, but it just doesn’t.

The majority of the things we do don’t matter….but the small amount of things we do matter A LOT!

It’s super easy to get caught up in hurrying and rushing.

Why?

Because we all fear missing out on an opportunity.

We don’t want to be left behind.

We don’t know when and how to say no.

It’s just easier to say yes to people and hurt ourselves than have them possibly dislike us or lose business for saying no.

Our perspective on time is precisely what has the ability to create anxiety itself.

We don’t feel like we have enough of it to get what we want done. That could be true, and fundamentally isn’t true at all.

If we don’t have enough time to get everything done, is it possible we are saying yes to far too many things? It’s not only possible, it’s true.

If you reverse engineer your resentment towards others, it’s typically because you said yes to something you didn’t want to but felt like you had to.

Unfortunately, that resentment is on you, not them.

When you say yes to something, you are essentially saying no to something else. What trade-offs are you making?

One thing I’ve learned about highly productive and happy people is that they are very clear on what they say yes to and what they choose to do…personally and professionally.

If you want to build a business, I don’t care how many hours you work. I care about how much time you spend building new relationships and taking care of existing ones. Nothing matters if you don’t have any customers.

What are you saying yes to that has little to no importance to you?

A respectful ‘no’ should actually be something we praise.

Why do we have to have a reason to not do something? Why do we need to justify it?

We’ve gotten to a soft place in society where we can’t just say what we really mean because of how the other person will feel? I’m not suggesting being disrespectful, I’m suggesting honesty.

We say yes to far too many things and then wonder why we don’t have any energy.

We say yes to far too many things and then wonder why we can’t ‘get it all done’.

It’s hard to regain any energy when you just keep saying yes to things and people.

Crazy idea…hang with me here..

What if you just said, “No, I’m sorry but I’m not going to make it to your party.” And then they ask why? What if you just told them ”I simply just don’t feel like going.” Ahhhh…crazy concept.

So if I can encourage you, pause for a second, get your values in order and start surveying where you’re spending your time.

It will become very clear if you’re operating from a sense of values and what’s important, or from a place of fear of letting others down.

News flash, letting people down by saying no could actually be a sign you’re on the right path.

It’s their expectations of you that are letting them down,

not the decision for you to make the best choice for yourself.

It’s time for all of us to take back control of where our time and energy is spent.

That simply requires clarity of values and courage to say not to everything else.

I’ll see you along the way!

Onward and upward!

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