ONE QUESTION

Are you simply managing your circumstances, or are you creating your life intentionally?

ONE THING TO PONDER

People are far more scared of their own emotions than they are of the events themselves. We fear the events, yet it’s the emotional trigger that is the actual fear. 

ONE PERSPECTIVE

Many of us are losing, not because we aren’t talented but because we are playing someone else’s game. 

We spend our lives running from pain, avoiding suffering, fearing to feel what we know is there, yet it seems easier to push down, to drink it away, to avoid it in order to achieve some level of fake comfort….this was me! 

We cling to comfort over truth.

Comfort we know is fake and yet somehow, the lie still feels safer than admitting we've veered off the path our soul has been begging us to walk.

Why?

Because the truth can feel uncertain and terrifying.

There is a good chance that we will discover we’re not who we've been pretending to be.

This isn’t going to be inspirational…

Suffering is part of the game of life. I know this for a fact, because I’ve yet to meet someone that never has!

Here's what I've learned from working with the highest performers:

They're often the most terrified to look at the real version of themselves.

It makes no difference what you ‘logically’ tell yourself after reading that sentence. But if something just hit you in your chest, you're one of them.

And I need you to hear this: You're not broken. You're human.

We’re lying to ourselves every day, and then we wonder why we’re stressed, anxious and worried. 

We boast to make sure people think highly of us…while we slowly die inside. 

I'm going to tell you something that might sound cynical, but it comes from love….

I put very little trust in the stories people tell on social media. 

And before you agree with me and say, “totally, people are just trying to post the highlight real” I’ll ask you to consider, are you doing the very thing you’re judging others for?

Not as judgment, but as protection.

Because I've had far too many conversations with people behind the ‘perfect’ feed. 

Those with the perfect photos, the achievements, the inspirational quotes. And they are struggling. Badly.

‘Perfect’ stories and posts give us a dopamine hit for about a day and then we are back to the same hunt for the next external validation activity…sound familiar?

If we want truth, look in the mirror and see what shows up without mentally manipulating what we know to be true at our core. 

The people I respect most aren’t the ‘successful’ ones, they are the ones that have the courage to face their own shit, tackle it head on and transform, rather than layering on more armor and a louder voice to drown out insecurities. 

I’m asking for some trust here, our biggest regrets we’ll have in our lifetime often have to do with abandoning what is true to us because we fear the repercussions:

• Upholding an image for acceptance

• Bragging about awards to feel some form of self worth

• Being the loudest and the most ‘confident’ to hide our insecurities 

Here's the courage I want to offer you:

This is a you vs. you game. Always has been. Always will be.

The repercussions of living someone else's life are far worse than the temporary discomfort of claiming your own.

You already know this. You've always known this.

Set down the weight of the BS you’re carrying, the path gets clear, trust me. 

Onward and upward!

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