Blurry Vision = Self Torture

Jake Luehrs
February 14, 2026

ONE QUESTION

Are you chasing life as if it’s somewhere else?

ONE THING TO PONDER

What we call pain is life simply rearranging our priorities.

Resistance to change has nothing to do with what is right or wrong for us, it’s our discomfort with change that is the real challenge.

ONE PERSPECTIVE

We want things to be different but fight like hell to stay the same.

Those two things don’t coexist. Yet we torture ourselves trying to weave them together.

The mind is like a really intelligent teenager…brilliant thoughts, zero emotional foundation or regulation.

We want down time, but panic if someone “passes” us.

We want strong character, yet assume things should be easier.

We want love, but not the pain that comes along with it.

We want consistent results, yet avoid any level of consistent behavior.

Stop for a second.

Just stop. Step back and actually look at what you want.

Not what you SAY you want. Not what sounds good on paper.

Here is one critically important decision to make that stops the suffering:

1. Drop the desire, or
2. Change the level of commitment to get it.

Either one is okay..as long as it’s true.

I'm over the cliche of "Anything is Possible."

It’s true, but hidden in that bullshit phrase is the assumption that "Everything" is possible.

That's a lie. Anything is, but not Everything is.

There is a sacrifice in every single decision we make. Every single one. Understanding this isn’t negative, it’s wisdom.

You want to make more money, you're going to have to sacrifice time...from others, from hobbies, etc.

I could work more and make more money right now, but I'm not willing to compromise my health and my close relationships to make it.

That’s my choice….In This Season.

When the kids are at a different age, I'm willing to make different choices with my time. So if you’re in this season, be ok with that.

What desires are you holding on to that are in direct conflict with what you value?

Many of us are carrying goals we don't even want. Chasing things that cost us what we care about most in the pursuit of validation from others.

We're exhausted, resentful, stretched thin…not because we're lazy or undisciplined.

But because we're trying to have it all. And "having it all" is a myth that's killing us.

The Path Forward

We have an opportunity to look at our lives right now.

Look at where our time actually goes. Where our energy flows. What we protect. What we’re willing to compromise.

That's what we value. Whether we want to admit it or not.

If we don't like what we see…We can change it.

With every decision. Every compromise. Every priority.

The more exposing question is: Are we building the life we actually want?

Or the one we think we're supposed to want?

Only you can answer that.

I’ll see you along the way!

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