ONE QUESTION

Are you managing your life or just the fear you have about it?

ONE THING TO PONDER

You’re not being punished, you’re being prepared.

ONE PERSPECTIVE

We’re professional critics, yet amateur optimists. 

I’m not talking about toxic positivity, I’m simply suggesting we put a similar amount of energy towards what is right and good. 

Our brains are like a search engine, we tend to find what we’re looking for. 

I have crafted a perfect recipe on how to be MISERABLE:

- Focus on what we don't have.

- Focus on what we don't want.

- Focus on what we don't like. 

What hurts the most is that we do it almost unconfscioulsy. I don’t say this often, but it’s not our fault. 

Being on the look out for potential danger is part of our natural evolution….we’ve just changed what we consider to be real danger. 

Our brains are wired to scan for problems, threats, and what's missing. But it's also slowly killing our soul.

Being right about what's wrong doesn't make our life any better.

If the world isn't lining up with your preferences, what are you focused on?

I believe it's good to be aware of what is going on around the world, yet my belief is that if we focused on cleaning up our own rooms before bastardizing everything and everyone else, the whole world would correct itself. 

A Hard But Accurate Truth

If your life isn't where you want it to be – your career, your relationships, your happiness – there's a common denominator in all of it.

You.

I know, I know. Your brain is already generating a list of exceptions. All the ways this isn't fair. All the things outside your control.

But stay with me for a minute.

Our relationships? We're in every single one of them.

Our career? We're the one driving that car.

Our happiness? We're the CEO of that company.

This isn't about blame. This is about power.

The Beautiful Burden of Responsibility

When we first realize we are the common denominator in our own life, it feels crushing. Like this massive weight of responsibility we don’t want to carry.

But then something shifts.

If I'm the problem... that also means I’m the solution.

If I'm the reason things aren't working... I'm also the reason they can work.

That's not a burden. That's freedom.

Our focus on idealism - how things should be - oftentimes steals the responsibility to grow ourselves FIRST. 

It deflects the power from something we can do ourselves to pointing the finger to how other people and other things SHOULD be.

We need more thumbs pointing back rather than fingers pointing outward. 

What if instead of being outraged by the world's problems, we got curious about our own patterns?

I'm not saying ignore the world's pain. I'm saying maybe – just maybe – the world changes when we do.

The people who have the courage to turn the finger back toward themselves are the ones who actually change the world.

Let that be you. 

I'll see you along the way!

Onward and upward!

P.S. If reading this made you want to argue with me, defend your circumstances, or explain why this doesn't apply to you... congratulations. You just found exactly what you were looking for.

Now try searching for something else.

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